When it comes to intentionally creating a happy, successful life, it’s so important to learn from smart, positive people who are living (or have lived) that life themselves.

I came across this 1950 recording made by Earl Nightingale, often considered the pioneer of the personal improvement movement.

He speaks in clear, engaging and intelligent detail of both his grounded definition of what success is and how to bring it to our lives.

I hope you find his insights truly valuable.

Let me know what you think at: AskUs@ThePowerOfIntentionalLiving.com

Cheers,

Paul

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Intentional Habits

It’s not enough to just want a great life. 

It’s a decision to focus what we do each day on building the experience of life we want.

The issue is…..we all are designed to create habits.

Some are very helpful.

And some… they aren’t necessarily working for us.

(Some can downright mess us up, right?) 

But We Get To Fix That

One of the most important Tools to add to your Intentional Living Toolbox is the power to intentionally create new habits that drive your unconscious actions towards the experience of life you want.

Enter B.J. Fogg

Stanford Professor, Behavioral Scientist and Author, B. J. Fogg, has spent years working to understand how we can intentionally create new habits that truly help us change our lives for the better.

Fogg’s methods are deceivingly simple. They remove “will power” from the process, and make installing new habits easy, based upon a cornerstone of Tiny.

Often that can mean really tiny, so we start embedding the new behavior in a very small, bit sized way, steering clear of anxiety and self-doubt. 

I’ve found his work so powerful I’ve incorporated his methods into The Power Of Intentional Living Membership journey.

His techniques give us a very adaptable, powerful way to assure new life choices turn into a lasting reality change. Ie. truly Stick. 

Get An Edge On Changing Life For The Better

If you’d like to get a jump start on one of the powerful tools you’ll learn within the TPIL Membership, I have a link to his book below.

It’s offered in whatever way you soak up knowledge best:

Physical print, digital (kindle) or the Audible version (which BJ Fogg reads and adds additional background not found in the print additions).

Just choose the one that fits you best and I bet you’ll find this journey very worthwhile.

Enjoy this truly breakthrough method, based upon years of solid behavioral research, and a lot of real life testing and refinement. (thanks to over 40,000 people so far!)

Start having fun intentionally adding one consistent, positive daily experience into your life!

One that will make your life, your business or your relationships work better and better every day.

Because You were born to have a Vibrant, Connected, Happy life.

(Really!)

Isn’t it time to take charge of the internal software and start telling it to create the experience of life you’ve chosen, instead of the one being randomly dished out when you don’t?

You can check out B.J. Foggs wonderful book “Tiny Habits” below.

Cheers, 

Paul

PS: It would be awesome to hear about your experiences when you put what you’ve learned in play in your life.

Please let me know at: AskUs@ThePowerOfIntentionalLiving.com or on our Facebook Page: ThePowerOfIntentionalLiving 

Paul A. Good MM, MEd
Founder
ThePowerOfIntentionalLiving.com
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Video Version

It’s a mystery why we all grow up with the myth that things happen to us.

It creates so much personal hardship.

We learn to think “Because of this …., Therefore I’m ….” is how our life works.

And that because something created an influence, we are simply the helpless victim of it.

No choice. That’s just the way it works….

Not unless we say so.

The Missing Piece

You and I, as human beings, are story making machines.

And when we recognize that, we get the power to decide what story we make up, based on how it serves our needs.

We’re not talking about ignoring the Facts of a situation.

But what happens next is about how we interpret them.

The Machine That Never Sleeps

Our sub-conscious mind is the machine part of us that never sleeps.

And that’s a good thing, since it runs all our internal systems every moment of the day.

A Vacation for the sub-conscious, becomes a permanent vacation for us.

But as an organic machine, it runs programs, millions of them, constantly.

It tells our cells what to do, directs what gets healed and what doesn’t, tells us what is dangerous and what is fun….

And all of it is constantly influenced by what it has been taught as being true.

The Sponge Phase

From day one in our life, to about five years old or so, the sub-conscious mind is in massive data collection mode.

Like a sponge, it just soaks up input on everything it experiences though all of it’s senses.

It doesn’t have any idea what is good or bad, helpful or harmful, it just collects everything it can so when the conscious part of the brain begins to kick in, it has data to work with.

The Conscious Mind Comes On Line

If you’re a parent, you probably noticed that somewhere around five years old your children showed signs of being more self-aware.

How they looked started to become important. What other people thought about them began to matter much more.

In my own life, I had a nephew and niece who lived in a rural area. For the first four plus years their most comfortable state was naked, if it were at all warm enough. Out in their secluded yard, in the house, playing, dancing, whatever they were doing, that was most comfortable for them.

One day, when my nephew was about five, he and I went to a hidden stream that had places where the water created still pools in the rocks.

It was a popular place to swim and have fun with the neighbors.

Because he and his sister had learned that the general public was not as enlightened about the freedom of being in their natural state, he brought his bathing suit for the swim.

Normally he would just walk over to a flat area, drop his pants, put on his suit and head for the watering hole.

But this time he turned to me and said “Uncle Paul, will you hold up a towel so I can change?”

I smiled, and felt very honored that he trusted me to help him adjust to this new experience of himself.

Control The Tool, Control The Results

Once the conscious mind comes online, for the first time we get to choose how we interpret what we experience.

We wrestle with how the data that showed up in our reference library should be pieced together and what it means to us.

But only rarely, did anyone coach us that in every situation, there are: The Facts of what has happened, and The Story we make up about it.

We Get To Write The Story

Here’s an easy example.

You’re on the freeway minding your own business when a speeding car suddenly cuts across in front of you, and heads off down the road.

Immediately your sub-conscious mind goes into danger alert mode!

Fear leaps into your system, likely followed by anger for “that … guy”.

Your likely first thought?…You want to show them how wrong they are for endangering you.

And you want to teach them that lesson right now.

You Have A Choice To Make

What experience of life do you want right now?

The Facts: A vehicle cut in front of you. You were not harmed. They are gone.

The Story You Choose To Make Up About It:

Story A.) One that accelerates the anger response your Sub-conscious just automatically dished out.

Likely results: More anger eats you up, stressing your system, stealing your happiness. You create additional danger for yourself and everyone else on the road by chasing him and attempting to confront him. Since the other driver is likely in a hyper state, based upon his driving, the odds of anything but a much worse situation occurring are very high.

Or

Story B.) You take a deep breath to release the adrenaline rush, hope the person isn’t rushing to the aid of a loved one, and shift your thoughts to the cool things you’re going to do later today when you arrive at your destination.

Likely Results: Life Continues To Be Enjoyable (because you said so).

Learn To Live Intentionally

When you live intentionally, you decide what story to make up about the Facts.

Because you decide if your life will be happy or stressed. Only you.

You understand that life doesn’t happen to you. It happens through you.

You get to choose the interpretation that best improves your experience of life at every moment.

We were given a Conscious mind to allow us to oversee the reactionary, “I don’t know right from wrong,” Sub-conscious mind because it doesn’t know any better.

With every situation that you practice separating the Facts and then Choose The Story that improves your life, the faster you re-connect to the experience of life you have chosen to live.

Because this is your life, nobody else’s.

And your greatest gift, is your ability to consciously decide how your life will go everyday.

Uncover and use the gifts you were given to help you.

Used well, you’ll truly build a life you love being a part of, no matter what your instant reaction throws at you.

Take charge of your machine,

and Never stop moving forward.

Cheers,

Paul

Paul A. Good MM, MEd
Founder/President
The Power Of Intentional Living
AskUs@ThePowerOfIntentionalLiving.com

* Paul A. Good

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And We Missed The Memo!

Know Yourself A Little Better
Take The Four Tendencies Quiz

Author Gretchen Rubin, well known for her upbeat, deep dive into “Happiness” in her book “The Happiness Project,” began to recognize an interesting pattern emerging in her research in the way each of us responds to life.

This triggered her next dive into our human tendencies and how some people seem to leverage them in very effective ways and other don’t.

Discovering, or should I say, recognizing this embedded trait in my own life was both an “Ouch!” and a “Wow, I can stop waisting time beating myself up,” kind of experience.

Removing Roadblocks

When I recognized how my tendency was directing my life, sometimes in ways that were not helping me, I suddenly realized I could now use that understanding to help me remove road blocks, instead of creating them.

And that was very cool.

It’s also why this insightful tool is one of many tools you get within The Power Of Intentional Living ILM paid membership program. There you begin by actually building your own personal “Owner’s Manual” to better guide your life decisions. 

The more you uncover and use the unique c tools you’ve already been given to create the experience of life you want, the more fulfilled and successful your life becomes.

Her book has a lot of great examples of how each of the four tendencies play out in real life.

So don’t miss out on the valuable wisdom Rubin skillfully details in her book.

But wouldn’t it also be cool to know which of the four tendencies are most core to you, so you could immediately start projects using it to make work and life easier?

Take The Four Tendencies Quiz and quickly find out!

(I laughed when it nailed it for me!)

Plus, her research based assessment tool is Free!

Have fun learning more about how you were built…

and start using it to help you create

The Experience Of Life You Love!

Never stop moving forward.

Cheers,

Paul

The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin
The Book

A Happy Life Happens Intentionally™

The Power Of Intentional Living

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Even When They’re Not A Natural Fit.

The trick is to find an “Access Point” to do it anyway.

The Video Version

A powerful benefit of being clear on what talents we bring to life, is the ability to use those talents as “Access Points” to accomplish things we should do, but don’t like to.

The personal “Owner’s Manual” you create in The ILM is a powerful tool.

It helps you stay focused on where you’re likely to find the most fulfillment and add the most value to the world in daily life.

Still, we don’t want to use this knowledge as an excuse to simply not do things we should do, but don’t naturally like to do.

When we do, we often cheat ourselves of valuable growth and others of significant residual benefits.

Here’s an example of a creative trick (An Access Point) I used to take on a task I had no passion for doing, but turned into something I have fun doing.

What’s For Dinner?

My wife always took responsibility for planning and making meals.

But she works a much less flexible schedule than I do.

Even though I was never “into cooking,” it suddenly (finally!) dawned on me that it was crazy she was coming home from work around dinner time and then taking on making dinner!

So, one night I asked her: “How about I take over planning and making dinner for us from now on, starting tomorrow?”

After being momentarily stunned that I wanted to take this on, she almost instantly said ” Yes, that would be really great!”

Enter The Holy Crap Moment

Oops…now I was all in.

I knew what I was doing was the right thing, but how was I going to “get into” cooking from now on?

It seemed like a steep climb, so I immediately started looking at how I could leverage my strengths to create a way to “get into” it.

One of my strengths is “transforming something strong into something superb,”* and I’m very visually oriented. (*ref. the Strengths assessment tool used within the ILM)

So I thought, “What could I do to make creating meals fun for me, if I didn’t have an interest in making the actual food?”

My solution: Make every meal “look” beautiful.

I decided to make the appearance of every plated dish the focus, creating a visual composition for each meal, especially as I was learning healthy combinations and how to work with flavors…

And how to not turn fish and chicken into a rubber product!

So How’d It Go?

Now, almost two years later, I make our dinners at least five days a week, have removed the pressure of this necessity from my wonderful wife’s “To Do” list, and most importantly, made her feel more appreciated.

Plus, I get to surprise her every evening with a new, visually attractive (and most times good tasting) meal that connects with me creatively.

I even take on those “meal in a box” deliveries once in a while, to help expand my knowledge of spices and combinations, creating new possibilities.

To paraphrase Thomas Edison: “The moment you think you’ve exhausted all the possibilities, you haven’t.”

An Easy Method To Change Your Perspective

What are things in your life that you should do, but dodge, because you really don’t want to?

Here’s A Method You Can Use To More Quickly Make A Connection Between Something You “Should” do, And Something You Love To Do:

Four Simple Steps:

1.) Make Three Quick Columns On A Piece Of Paper (yup, draw two semi-straight lines down the paper to divide it into three sections.)

2.) Add These Titles To The Top Of Each Column:

Column #1: What I Should Do, But Don’t Want To

Column #2: My Most Powerful Strengths

Column #3: Ways To Connect Them

Don’t Add Anything To The Columns Yet.

Flip the paper and make the Column #1 (Should Do) list on the back of the paper so you can just flow them out to see them.

Now Pick The One Item That Will Be Easiest For You To Accomplish. (This is not an Ironman Challenge, it’s a Get Your Feet Wet and Have Some Fun Exercise to get you familiar with the process. So start with small weights and work up.)

3.) In Column #2: List Your Most Powerful Strengths. (If you’re in the ILM, use the Strengths section in your “Personal Owner’s Manual™” If not (yet), write down what you feel from experience are your most dominant strengths. The talents you seem to use most often when you’re doing something you love to do.

4.) In Column #3, “blue sky” fun and/or wacky ways you can link the task in Column #1 to one or more of the Strengths you listed to accomplish the task.

5). Start doing the task in Column #1 using those strengths!

That’s  what I did in my “Holy Crap” moment and you can do the same.

And have Fun with it! The more silliness your create as you do it, the better.

The mission is to make that combination uniquely interesting to you.

And now you have another cool Tool in your “Intentional Living Tool Box™.”

“Living Intentionally means you’ve become clear about the experience of life you want, and are actively making it so.”

By learning to quickly shift focus from seeing a barrier, to finding an “Access Point™,“ you intentionally shift your experience from a feeling of Weakness to an Experience of Control.

And learning to kick that burden to the curb using something already strong within you, gives you more power to live more intentionally.

Because A Happy Life Happens Intentionally™

and you get to make it so everyday.

Cheers,

PS: If you’re not already in The IL M, we open registration just a few times a year.

But You Can Jump in to our Free “Tools For Living” Mini-Series Experience Now!

I’m In For The Mini-Series!

You’ll get started learning how to live more intentionally, learn a variety of cool tools to help you live a happier life right now and have the first opportunity to join The ILM before it’s announced to the public.

I Can’t Wait To Meet You!

Cheers, Paul

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You’ll likely laugh at yourself, as I did. He will open your mind to how his simple method can powerfully create happiness in not only your own life, but in the lives of everyone you touch each day. 

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Choose wisely.”
Will Bowen
(Author: A Complaint Free World)

A few years ago in a small American town, a movement started that has now spread around the world.

The incredible part is that it calls us to give up something that is so normal in our daily lives, that we do it unconsciously.

It’s woven into the fabric of most conversations we have everyday.

But it’s also an insidious reason why so many of us stay trapped feeling life is not much fun anymore.

The Unconscious Art Of Complaining

You and I know that complaining is not an admiral trait.

But this habit is so embedded into our culture, we almost never consider the personally damaging effect it’s having on our personal level of happiness, or on everyone experiencing us.

Hiding In Plain Sight

I intentionally focused on looking for the positive in life a long time ago for a very practical reason:

It’s a catalyst for bringing more positive results into being.

Dwelling on the negative interfered with the speed of creating successful results and prevented others from becoming enrolled in the mission to help create that success.

So, naively, I thought I was pretty low on the complaint scale.

But here’s the insidious part for me.

Because I knew how damaging complaining was to others, I didn’t often complain in public.

But when I was alone with me, myself and I, or worse, sometimes with my amazing wife, an emotionally frustrating moment would come up, and out would come a complaint.

It’s Really No Big Deal 

I never really thought it mattered. Everybody does it, and it’s just a normal part of being human. 

In fact, it’s probably good for me to get that frustration out that way. It makes me feel I’ve told the universe I’m upset and I’m posting my complaint. In fact, I’m actually helping change the world by letting it know what’s wrong so somebody else will fix it soon.

But The Universe Decided To Throw Me A Bone

I came across Will Bowen’s book “A Complaint Free World” and it sounded like a crazy idea, but interesting.

Since I’m always on the hunt for proven tools and resources for my readers, the curiosity got me started. 

And soon I realized how damaging complaints, sarcasm and gossip were to living an energized, happy and productive life.

The “experience of life I want and am actively making it so.”

Will Bowen And His Radical Idea 

This crazy idea of creating a Complaint Free World, started by Will Bowen, asks you to do something that seems on the surface, relatively easy (or so I thought):

Remove complaints, sarcasm and gossip from all your conversations for just 21 days.

If for no other reason but to give yourself a good laugh at yourself, take this on and see how “easy” this really is.

The Complaining Norm

When you start to consciously pay attention to how often this triad of downers show up in what you say out loud each day, it will likely stun you.

It’s just so “Normal.”

In fact, I began to realize that integrating a complaint or sarcasm into what I said, in often subtle ways, happened much more than I ever imagined.

For me anyway, it was a form of personal entertainment. I never thought of it as being a “complaint” or paid attention to how I felt immediately after saying it. 

But it was.

And the more I recognized it for what it was, the more I started to notice how I felt after saying it.

Passing On The Poison

What I didn’t realize, until I began this fun experiment, was the suppressive effect I was experiencing from the underlying frustration created (and perpetuated) behind it.

Or that I was actually passing on that frustration to every person I expressed it in front of. And that included my most personal relationship. The one with my wife. Ouch.

Essentially, I was passing on the poison.

21 Days To An Experience Most Never Know

So I began the 21 day challenge.

Simply, put the purple band you can get from his website (very inexpensively and embossed with A Complaint Free World.org, or use your own version.  

Put it on one wrist to begin.

Anytime you say a complaint, sarcastic remark or gossip, move the band to the other wrist.

Start the 21 day count again.

The Magic Of Living A Complaint Free Life

Let me start by saying I’m still on this journey to 21 days (the time it generally takes to establish a new habit in your subconscious).

But the more I experience the lightening effect that happens each time I don’t energize the triad of downers, the more committed I am to making this my new normal state of being.

And the closer I get to making 21 days in this zone, the more excited I am about the experience of the day to come.

It’s become a game to see where I will catch myself about to…… and then treat myself to the experience I get immediately from not going there.

It’s like an energizing shot of positive I get to self administer. No caffeine required. 

“People Don’t Change…”

Maybe,

But You Change Others Experience Of Life Everyday.

If you want proof that what you say has an immediate effect on others, try this experiment:

First, in your next conversation, begin paying close attention to how people are reacting to you during the moments you’ve Not added a complaint, criticism, or sarcastic comment to the conversation.

Then, intentionally make one single complaint, and watch the expression on their face. 

You just changed their experience of the moment… and brought it down a notch.

The power you have to effect others is real.

Use Your Presence To Raise The Bar Of Happiness

By purging complaints from your experience of life, watch how the people around you enjoy being around you more and like working with you more often.

Underneath the noise around us, we all hope a happy life will come to us. 

But the world doesn’t anoint us with happiness, it gives us something much more valuable:

The ability to personally create it and reflect that feeling into the experience of others.  

Cue The (wrist) Band. Game On!

I’m ask that you to be one of those crazy individuals that takes this on. Why?

Because if you remove even a small percentage of complaints from the world, you’ll be healing the world a little bit more.

What do you have to lose, except the time it takes to move the band from one wrist to another?

And maybe a bit of ego, as you move it more often at first, than you expected.

Here’s the book link to make getting started easy:

Click The Book To Learn More>

A  natural channel for me is auditory, so I listened to the book through Audible. It also made it so I could jump in and listen on the fly, whenever I had a free moment.

But whatever learning mode best suits you, I highly recommend this incredible journey. Pick your version from the several available when you click the book image.

The founder and author Will Bowen will share his surprising journey, touch your heart with stories of struggle and transformation, and open your thoughts to what has become a beautiful mission with world changing ability.

Never stop moving forward.

Cheers,

Paul

Click The Book To Learn More

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Falling in love for most of us is involuntary.

From a sea of people, you catch a glance of one person and your mind says,

“whoa, what was that?”

Something in your natural radar connected instantly to their way of being, for reasons we may never understand.

But once a relationship begins, how do you sustain that feeling over months and then years?

Sustaining the value to both people becomes one of mutual responsibility. (As much as we really think it should just “happen.”)

But that’s where many relationships start to break down.

Even if both people still remember the “radar love” that took over their head, without learning a few “happiness” skills, neither one will get to feel loved in an enduring way just accidentally.

Loving Intentionally

Living intentionally means you’ve become clear about the experience of life you want, and are actively making it so.

This applies to relationships especially, because much of living the experience of a happy life comes from stoking the happiness of our relationships.

Every relationship is unique, but there are a few simple things each of us can do to make them work happier, especially with the people we love.

Get Clear On What You Appreciate

Stop for a moment and think about what excites you about the person you love.

If you’re a list person, write them down. “How do I love thee, let me count the ways” is exactly that.

An Appreciation list.

This “A” list helps us keep the beautiful elements of who they are present in our thoughts every time we read it.

And that’s where lasting love grows from; staying present to what you appreciate about them every day, even when you’re not physically together. 

There’s never one reason why a relationship breaks down, but a core reason many relationships fade is because of a lack of active appreciation of the other person’s value. 

Because it’s so easy to let the noise of life take us off focus about what really matters.

Staying focused on our relationship mattering first, and the world second, changes everything on the long term happiness scale.  

So here are a few ideas that can help you keep the appreciation sustained and the love you value, enduring.

Create Her (or Him) As Beautiful

When you create a person as beautiful, you’re not repeating in your head “They Are Beautiful” multiple times a day to convince yourself it’s true.

You start by using your Appreciation list to help you keep clear on how much they add to your life everyday.

Then…

Get The Appreciation Out Of Your Head

Anytime you hear an appreciation thought in your head,  sincerely, say it out loud to them.

Never say a single word falsely. This is not “fake it ’till you make it.”

If you do, she or he won’t trust a complement or loving thing you say.

Use the feeling you felt when you wrote down that Appreciation to drive your complement.

It’ll likely feel awkward at first. You may need to push yourself to say it out loud when you think it.

But with a little conscious practice, you’ll start to make affirming your partner’s value to you, a wonderful, natural behavior.

Stay On Guard For Silenced Appreciation

In any day there are likely times you Visually observe something about the person you love where, in your head, you say “Man, she looks sexy,” or “Wow, I love that beautiful smile,” or “The clothes he’s wearing make him look so awesome…”

Or you notice something during the day they’ve Done for both of you like: “Nice, they emptied the dishwasher,” or “did the laundry today,” or any of the other simple, daily things that almost always go un-recognized for the kindness the doer is expressing by just doing them.

Take just a second to text them or if they’re near, tell them “By the way, Thanks for….”

They don’t need you to be all warm and gushy about it.

It’s about you making sure they know you noticed what they did to make life better and that it’s appreciated.

Pay Attention To What Matters To Them

Paying attention to what is important to her or him and honoring them by respecting it, is very powerful in a relationship.

Especially when it requires you to change your behavior to do so. (Darn).

Replacing your default habit, out of respect for them, goes along way with anyone to show you mean it when you say they matter, to you.

It confirms you genuinely respect who they are. It earns their respect for who you are, because they see you changed something in you, to love them better.

Here’s an example: Whoever regularly does laundry asks you to not put your clothes on the floor, but always in the closet or laundry bin.

You grew up throwing clothes on the floor, because your mom always picked them up and washed them.

But now you’re in a relationship that both of you are choosing to continue.

So each time you “forget” to do it to help them, it shows you don’t respect the effort they’re making for your love.  

How It Feels To You

Think about this in your own life:

When today did someone say they appreciated who you are or what you are doing? This week? This month?

How disrespected did you feel when someone repeated the same behavior you asked them several times not to do? Did it make you feel less interested in being around them?

If they do that every week, imagine how it starts to erode the joy of being together.

Out Loud Is The Only Way It Counts

Start today to look for the everyday things they do to make your home life better and mention it.

Any time it occurs to you that the woman or man you love looks beautiful, say so.

Whisper it in their ear when you’re in public, or casually mention it from across the living room. 

When you find something at home done that they took care of for you, text them immediately or leave a note on the counter for them to find when they get home.

When they tell you something positive they did at work, acknowledge the value they brought to it because of who they are. 

Never keep that appreciation thought in your head.

Keeping it there, little by little, builds a void that pushes them away from you.

And the love that thought carries, never reaches the heart of the person you most want it to.

Practice Skills Of Happiness

A happy life comes from intentionally creating the experience of your relationship with others.

Especially with the people you love.

Starting is easy.

Just get your genuine appreciation of the one you love out of your head and into their world.

So few ever do this and the better you are at this skill, the more value you create in being with you. 

You Don’t Have To Be Perfect

When it comes to relationships, no one starts off knowing how to create a sustaining love.

But it’s a skill we can learn to be much better at.

Learn to love them better, notice and act on what they care about most and keep practicing.

You won’t always get it right, but you’ll always be moving in the right direction.

Remember:

There’s no such thing as “understood” appreciation. It’s a gift to be given each day, in Love.

Never stop moving forward.

Cheers to you,

Paul

Paul Good (MEd, MM)
Founder, The Power Of Intentional Living

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When was the last time you stopped to get clear on the value of you?

It’s likely the voice in your head just said, “Who cares? I’m me everyday. I don’t need to waste time putting it into words. I’m just me.”

But just for a moment, remember the last time you beat yourself up for being a failure at something.

At that moment, you probably felt like that was who you were, and forgot about everything else you actually are.

When we let moments blur the value of what makes us uniquely “us,” we can easily lose site of why we matter.

And not remaining clear about why we matter, can take us down a dangerous road in life.

The Power Of Knowing Who You Are

Getting clear on the value of what we feel makes us uniquely us, is so important.

When we have a strong sense of what we bring to the table, we have a foundation to fall back on when life throws us a curve.

We  can draw from that strength, and remind ourselves that there’s a big difference between what’s happening at the moment and who we are.

Building “I Am” Strength

Imagine if each day you started from a clear perspective about who you are and the contribution you are able to make during that day.

Like a craftsperson getting ready for work, you begin by looking into your “toolbox” to be prepared for what the day brings.

Create Something Better

You get that chance everyday.

By creating your “I Am” statement in Step #1 on our Home page, and making it a part of your daily living, you stay clear on the value you bring to each day.

And because you’re clear, you see more opportunities where you know you have the right stuff to add value.

More places where you can make the moments with others better.

Or those moments alone more comfortable, when it’s just you talking to you.

Take This Time To Build On You

Do this with the intention of creating this reminder as a new habit.

One that puts your genuine, you know it’s true, value in front of you consistently, so “moments” never blur those lines again.

Be sure to download the “I Am” Worksheet in Step #1.

The instructions are on the sheet to guide you. (Here’s the link to Step #1)

Use it to build your own picture of who you are, according to you.

Then make it the way you start and end your day for the next week.

After each time you play or read it, sense how you feel about you.

More positive, stronger in focus, more confident, more proud of who you are.

At the end of the week, commit to doing the same for one more week.

Staying clear about your unique, talents and passions, gives you leverage to overcome obstacles and transform the moments around you.

When you Subscribe I walk you through all three steps that help you recognize your gifts and put them to use in everyday life.

Because that’s where the magic happens.

Go to Step #1 here to download your “I Am” Worksheet.

Never stop moving forward.

Cheers,

Recommended Tools For Change: The clearer you are about what matters, the more value you get from being productive.

In the book, Smarter, Faster, Better by Charles Duhigg, he’ll show you a variety of interesting and proven ways to create more time for yourself, your family and your friends.

Let me know if you find it valuable to you. (Contact Us)

Cheers, Paul

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But habits only make your life better,
if you create ones that work for you.

This book shows you how.

When you feel like your daily life is disconnected from what moves you forward, one of the first places to look is at your habits.

The reality is, most of what we do each day, we do by unconscious habit.

So to get more harmony into the experience of life we want, we need to create habits that support a connected experience.

One of the very powerful “built in” tools we have is our habit system.

You can use this incredible system to your strategic advantage.

By intentionally creating your own habits, you can accelerate and automate the results you personally want to experience.

In his book, Superhuman By Habit, Tynan takes you through his journey, one that begins with him living a procrastinating, disorganized, start but never finish, lifestyle.

Realizing that his life was following a path to disappointment, he set out to learn how others had successfully created positive habits that helped make them successful.

The book, Superhuman By Habit, that resulted is a straight talking, fast paced series of teaching stories.

Each chapter provides defined, cause and effect recommendations designed to take you from wherever you are, to automating behaviors that support your chosen experience of life.

Good habits build great lives.

This book delivers multiple ways to help nudge you forward, one good habit at a time.
(It’s also available in audio form).

Let me know what new habits you’ve created. I’d love to hear.

Cheers,

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